The Good Idea/Do you have fear?

Good morning everyone….

It is getting close to that time again….I see dozens of frozen birds just waiting to become the biggest meal of the year. Are you getting ready? I’m still between that place of “is it at your house or ours?” Seeing how close we are; this decision should be made real soon.

Today I am going to jump right in there and talk about fear. How it stops us, overwhelms us, paralyzes us and makes us “Babies!!!”

I will admit right here and now that I use to be one of the “Babies.” I use to hide under my kitchen table whenever that (fradie-cat) feeling hit. I use to plug my ears and say, “na, na, na, na.” HA HA too funny – but true!

Oh my gosh, fear does paralyze doesn’t it? What an emotion to be trapped by. My goodness if you suffer from this then let me encourage you to believe that you do not have to live this way.

I’ve read up on some “fear” issues and this is what I found that helped me….from Nelson Mandela, “The brave man (or woman) is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” YES!!!

Then we have 2 Timothy 1:7 (New King James Version)
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. YES!!! Again

These two quotes can fill the reader up with strength. We can and will get through anything when we are thinking the right thoughts and that will come from knowing the truth.

I’m convinced that I am to live a strong life and be not afraid. When we are afraid we are “good for nothin’” as my Mama would have said.

So be strong today, be bold today and be one who conquers your fears. Herein lays real strength! This could make all the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Together is better

Good morning my friends….

Well there was much celebration and joy at my home last night….the Colts won by 1 point.

My Son Matthew was on the edge of his seat. However at times he was saying…"Oh it is not going to happen…the Colt’s are not going to pull this off!" Of course I said… (You can imagine) “Matthew, do not dog on your team…do not speak this over them…they will win!” 35 to 34….YIPPEE!!! He still had a smile on his face when he woke up this morning. Hallelujah!!!

Now on to other things…while doing some reading this weekend I ran across a quote from Martin Luther King, “We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.” WOW!!! This is a powerful message to all who will listen.

You know when we raise one another up; many go up, when we pull one down; many get pulled down.

I heard a story not so long ago where a little girl was made fun of at school. She hurt and cried over this. She asked “why?” She continued on her way and looked forward to returning home each and every day.

Then – Then – (the hush of a word) things changed. She found out why some of the girls made fun of her. This little girl is different. She exudes joy and happiness. She loves and she shows it. She speaks truth and the world, even children, are not ready to hear this.

It started with one girl who started talking…who started poking fun….then another one joined in…then another one…before you know it this little girl was out numbered. But – the happy ending….she hung in there and now the tide is turning.

You see what one girl did? She was faced with something she did not understand so she made fun of this other girl. She brought others with her and they did not even know why.

Were these girls living like sisters? No, they were going down a road together where there was no exit. More and more were falling down because they did not know how to embrace and accept each other.

You may say, “Well these are just kids” – can we condone this? No. We all have to begin somewhere. We all must see that together we can make it – divided we will fall. We are brothers and sisters under one Father and He calls us to be for each other not against each other.

I’ve seen this little girl and she now wears a smile because one other girl spoke up and said, “I’m not going to listen to that other stuff….I like you…we can trust you.”

If you wait around long enough, if you do not run but remain the person who God says you are – then the light will begin to shine. Oh, I can see the difference! Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Confirmation

Good morning to all….

This is wonderful. Don’t you love it when a confirmation happens? When the realities of your thoughts are confirmed?

I so enjoy and marvel at how this happens. This has to do with yesterday’s Good Idea. “We don’t take from…” we share with each other….remember? How no one is an island and we support each other…we have abundance when we share…and so on….well here’s the confirmation….

As I am preparing to assist in storytelling for Church this Sunday I am reading my script and guess what the virtue is: “COOPERATION” Working together…yes, this is great.

Memory Verse: “Two people are better than one. They can help each other in everything they do.” Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NlrV)

Here is the big line which made me yell “Hallelujah” – “Cooperation is not just a “Good Idea” (seriously it says that!) It’s a “God Idea.” Hallelujah again! I’m tellin’ ya’ good stuff!

Believe it or not this type of confirmation keeps me going. I not only get to share with you but I get to present to the children. We are never too young or too old to get it right!

Enjoy your beautiful weekend – sharing with someone. Oh how easy it is to make a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/We don't take from....

Good morning my friends….. (Happy Birthday Sis!!!)

I’ve been looking forward to sharing with you today…..so here goes….

While I was talking with a friend of mine yesterday; a thought came to me about how we give to others.

How what we say may be exactly what someone else needs to hear. What a confirmation when you find out that you have just helped another person by relating “your story.”

This is what came to me…"We do not take from each other; we give to each other."

Now think about this - let’s say we approach situations like this… it’s in the giving to each other not the taking from another that changes the whole atmosphere. All of a sudden you feel like you are wearing different shoes. Your thoughts have just gone from being robbed to openly giving.

I’m sure that you have all been in the situation where getting some information from someone has taken an act of Congress. You say to yourself..."what’s the big deal?" "Why is this person holding onto this like they own it?" A power play perhaps???

Sharing needed information does nothing more than move us all along. It is necessary to further our development. I come from a mindset of abundance – there is enough to go around. Just open your arms and share. (Ahhh – maybe this is where the abundance comes from – sharing.)

Let us remember that we were not created to live on an island – we need to interact and share what God has so graciously given to us. Nothing belongs to us…we are just using it to help others.

Probably once we accept this we will be more inclined to give rather than grab. So I’m giving out warm embraces and encouragement today. Go out and do what we were created to do…..it’s to make the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/A small gesture

Good morning to all…..

What a day already. We have started early and I feel that there is so much more to this day. Yes I’m in a day of expectancy and I can’t wait.

Today I want to share with you a little thing….a small gesture that had a huge reward. This is a random act of kindness.

I’m sharing this with you not to build myself up but to say that there is not an act so small that it won’t get noticed…or it won’t make you feel really good.

I was given the privilege yesterday to give away a Danish ring coffee cake. See, no big deal, right? But it proved to be an awesome moment for me.

While at the store, picking up a few things for dinner, I saw one of my son’s favorite things…a cinnamon Danish ring coffee cake. I said to myself – he will be so happy and surprised. So I grabbed it and off I went.

While running down another isle – I crossed paths with an older gentleman who smiled brightly and I just wanted to hug him. He had on a hat, sports coat and dress pants. He was either going somewhere, just came from somewhere or maybe just maybe this is his daily dress.

We both said hello and he saw the Danish ring and said, “Oh those are wonderful, I might have to come home with you.” I laughed and said, “My son will probably fight you for it.” Then we parted ways.

So…..as I was paying…that still small voice said to me…”Find the man and give him the coffee cake.” At first we say to ourselves…Huh??? Then I hear again, “Find the man and give him the coffee cake.” I say OK and proceed to find the man….no surprise he was close by so I was on my way.

I handed the gift to him and at first he said, “No-no” and I said “yes, yes” I will get another one. Then he said, “I am going to have to come home with you.”

The message in all of this …..that small incident made me cry. I was so blessed by this by seeing his happiness by feeling his joy that I was overcome with joy myself.

It doesn’t take much to make someone’s day – it really doesn’t take much to make our day! It’s in the small things….just reach out and when you are asked to do something be obedient because the reward of joy is powerful!

Enjoy all that you do for someone today – you may really make a difference in their lives and yours too. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Are you prepared?

Good morning my friends….

Today I’m jumping right in with a question? Are you prepared? You may ask, prepared for what? I answer, for your day?

I spoke with my oldest daughter this morning and she is taking an exam today which she had to prepare for. She spoke of the importance of this exam and how she had been preparing for it all last week. Still she questioned herself…"did I study enough?"

I believe that there are times when we just question ourselves because we want so much to do it right. We put undo pressure upon ourselves taxing our minds with worry about how much time we have given to preparation.

If Sarah focused on her material, if she gives it all that she has, if she believes that God wants only the best for her and that He will equip her, if she believes in herself and her gifted abilities then she “did study enough.”
To be prepared means: (on-dictionary)
equipped or prepared with necessary intellectual resources; "graduates well equipped to handle such problems"; "equipped to be a scholar"

Whether we are taking a school type test or just maneuvering through our day; we must be prepared. You know the old saying – “Life happens.” Well, yes it does and are you ready for it?

What are we doing to insure that each day counts? That each day we are more ready than the last to face what may come before us?

“Stuff” happens to all of us. Some of it we are prepared for and some of it we are not. Expect the unexpected and you can live a more restful and peaceful life. How do I know this?

1 Peter 3:15 (NIV) But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,

You get there by “JustAsking.” You will make such a difference when you are prepared. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Paradox

Good morning everyone….

OK here we go again…a word that keeps coming up and a word that I cannot ignore. The word is paradox.

Let’s define paradox: a statement that contradicts itself; "’I always lie' is a paradox because if it is true it must be false.” (On line dictionary)

Here is a quote from Mother Teresa:
‘I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love.’

Want more? How about a Bible quote:
James 1:2 (New International Version) Trials and Temptations 2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,

This way of thinking may seem quite alien to many of us. “Being joyful in times of trials and temptations.” “Loving until it hurts.” How can this be?

I believe that this has something to do with rising above our circumstances. Being joyful for what we have and what we are being tested for. There is a bigger picture here….are you seeing it?

We do not have to be joyful about the trial but we must carry joy knowing that there is purpose in all that happens.

Some ask me “what is the purpose?” I do not have that answer but I do know that the answer is specific to the person. When we “JustAsk” for help, direction, wisdom, peace, faith, insight, understanding the answers do come.

When you believe - when you take you out of the mix then the answers come quickly. Not all things happen TO you; some things happen FOR you.

When you hear “love until it hurts” or “be joyful in the face of trials” consider that it might be a learning experience. It could be something that has been pre-arranged for you. Someone loves you so much that they will test you so that you can discover where your heart lies.

There is purpose to your life – give until you can give no more! Make a difference today. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Stir up your inner joy

Good morning my friends…..

How many people do you know who always seem “on?” These individuals are motivated, excited and ready to move.

We look at them in awe and wonder where their energy and stamina come from. We even ask – “aren’t they ever down?”

The answer to that is yes they get down from time to time but these individuals know how to build themselves back up.

Do you know how they do it? They do it through joy. They have joy that is true and everlasting. No phoniness only depth of real joy. To get motivated doesn’t take much.

All of us need motivation. All of us need to activate our inner joy to produce outward happiness. A reflection of this is the sparkle in our eyes.

A wonderful mentor of mine says “we must stir up what is inside of us.”

Most of us do not live in a rainbow 24/7…so we must exercise our ability to shine with joy each and every day. Once that true joy is there – the effort to express joy... is effortless. You are just “joyful” and it shows.

Some people dislike being around “joyful” people. I’m not sure why. At times I think people perceive me as being “cold” but nothing could be further from the truth. I see things differently than most people.

I see hope and promises. I do not run to the negative and that boggles another person’s mind. Some people just want you to be miserable with them. I won’t do that.

This starts with your state of mind and how you perceive things to be. What do you believe? What and who do you trust in? Who are you hanging around with?

If you want to be up and motivated then you have to have joy down deep in your heart. You will then be able to pick yourself up no matter what and move forward.

When others see your joy – you might get them to move forward with you. What a difference that will make. REALLY enjoy all that you do today. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Respect/love

Good morning to all….

Have any of you been chasing leaves recently? I have been chasing a few down the street and around the bend. When will this stop?

In the beginning we looked at the changing leaves and said, “oh how lovely.” Now we look at the changing leaves and say, “a few more strong winds and you will be down.” “Where did I leave that rake?” (Who invented that street/leaf sweeper thing? It is great!)

Today I want to share with you an interview which I saw on Deborah Norville. Deborah is the host of the television show “The Inside Edition.”

Deborah has written a book called The Power of Respect. She was recently interviewed on The 700 Club. She said that she wanted to share with readers what she has found to be a huge problem in our society. That problem is called “Lack of Respect.”

She sites incidences from the school children to adulthood and beyond…. “Lack of Respect” I have to agree with her.
Let’s look to…Galatians 5:14 (New King James Version)
14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself”

Love and respect I do believe go hand in hand. So if we do not love/respect our neighbor then we do not love/respect ourselves. I think this is what this verse says. Powerful, isn’t it?

Respect starts at home. Respect is taught at home. From little all the way up. How many children do you know who do not even acknowledge an adult. I know plenty and when this dis-respect happens the sting is felt.

When did we stop telling our children to say hello to adults? When did we stop telling our children to address adults as Mr., Mrs., or Ms?

Children go out the door without the proper teaching so why would we expect them to treat each other differently? We must be taught to respect each other not only for who we are but for who we represent.

You may ask who do we represent…”JustAsk.” Let’s start by respecting ourselves then we can move on to respecting others. We are worthy of respect as long as we give respect.

Be the example and not the excuse. We give respect to get respect. We give love to get love. We do these things because they will make the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/It's not fair

Good morning my friends….

Just the other day our youngest was on the computer typing up a report when all of a sudden the electricity went out. She yelled, “This isn’t fair!”

I checked in on her to ask what the problem was and she told me how she lost her report. I asked her if she saved her document as she was going along and the answer was no. Just as she was hitting the save button – out goes the lights! OOPS!!!

I consoled her and related stories on how her Dad and I have lost documents. We had to learn to save as we go along.

Now the statement of “this isn’t fair” needed to be dealt with. What is fair and why wasn’t this fair…to her?

Idioms: no fair
Something contrary to the rules: That was no fair.

Was it “fair” that the computer shut down – it probably doesn’t even pertain? Bottom line – how many times do we blame something or someone on not being fair when it doesn’t even pertain to the situation?

Now we need to take “fairness” out of our vocabulary sometimes and ask if we are being responsible people. If we loose something it could very well be that we were not being responsible.

We really have no one to blame but ourselves. But….who wants to do that? It is so easy to look for that scapegoat.

May I suggest that before we point that finger, stomp our foot and say…"that’s not fair"…let’s look at what we did to help ourselves – either into it or out of it.

It comes with maturity and we all learn…and continue to learn. But there is just something about not “passing the buck” that should make us feel good.

When the truth stares us in the face – we have to say, you are right…let’s start again. It may not feel good at first but if you push through the “pity party” you will experience real joy!
Enjoy your day and do what you can to back yourself up….save, save, save…when the lights go out – you just might have made a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Love

Good morning and happy Friday…

As I sit here preparing myself for our time together; I gaze out the window and see beautiful splashes of color across the yard. Trees have lost their leaves and now these leaves are arranging themselves into a work of art. God’s coloring is absolutely amazing.

Let’s talk about “Love” today…. more specifically what we do for love. We can do crazy things for love can’t we? We have heard all kinds of stories regarding how people show love for one another.

Some of these stories are funny and some are heart warming. Men bring flowers and candy to the women they love. (Women accept them…because of love. HA HA) Women will cook and clean for their men because they love them.

We care for our children and all of their needs because we love them. Children love us so they shower us with hugs and kisses and sometimes challenges!

I shared with a friend of mine just how much I “loved” George in the growing stages of our relationship. Now you all know how much I dislike worms…well I did the ultimate for George.

He graciously took me fishing on his boat one day and I cut up the blood worms for bait. Oh my goodness – what got into me that day???? LOVE

The small things also count…like being the first one in the morning to make the coffee. (Thank you George.) How about starting the car on cold mornings just so I don’t freeze. (Thank you George) Spreading rose pedals down the stairs on our Anniversary…oh that was BIG! (Thank you George.)

Love, it comes in many ways. The important thing is that it comes. Love is to be given away. Love is a hug that never stops holding on.

I remembered the song, “What I did for love” from the musical “A Chorus Line”…Kiss today goodbye. And point me t'ward tomorrow. We did what we had to do. Won't forget, can't regret what I did for love. Are you all singing???


I know the story of someone who so LOVED the world that He gave His only Son…For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 (NIV)

Now this is love eternal. The greatest love that there is.
Go out there and love on somebody today. Let someone love on you. It could make a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Life

Good morning my friends….

Today I want to jump right in and talk about “life.”

How precious life is, how short life is, how special life is and what do we do with this life?

Are we bothered when a life is taken away? What about the life of an animal? Does that touch you in any way? Or do we say, “Just an animal?”

What about the life of a person whom you do not know. Do we have compassion for their families? Do we mourn their deaths?

Many people did mourn on September 11, 2001. We cried out for our brothers and sisters whom most of us did not even personally know. But they were of us weren’t they?

I think of animals that die – either by natural causes or being hit by a car, left abandoned, abused or diseased.

There is life in that animal and it was just taken out. I do not want to see animals dead on a road….and that includes deer. I think these are beautiful creatures and to see them destroyed bothers me.

What about pets that gets loose and end up on the road? Lives are taken out every day. How do we feel about that?

The breath in us is so special. This breath was given to us as a gift and many of us do not even acknowledge that. It is not a mistake that you are here….you are a gift! And – you have a lot to give.

Precious life – enjoy it, cherish it, embrace it and share it! When we all breathe together it makes such a big difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Smartest Person

Good rainy morning….

These are typical fall days….leaves on the ground, air wet with moisture, worms slithering about… (Now why do we have them????) and the sound of geese encouraging each other on.

I still gaze up at them when they are flying by. What magnificent creatures. They truly have the “encouraging” thing down!

Today I want to talk about people who know IT ALL. Do you know anyone like that? I do. Even our children will say, “ya, ya, I know.” I say, “You do…pretty smart kid!” “At your age I don’t think that I knew as much as you do.”

I know that we are pushing our children farther and faster these days but there is something to be said about experience and years of learning…isn’t there?

To be able to say, “I don’t know” takes courage and confidence in oneself. I respect the person who says, “I will find out for you and let you know.”

I do not think less of them for not knowing the answer right away, do you? What is wrong with admitting that we do not know something? Are we expected to know “everything” right away? Did this start with the TV show-“Are you smarter than a 5th grader?”

I was reading an article on John Wooden, the legendary basketball coach and he said, “It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.” Isn’t that great?

This is humbling I think. I believe that this comes with maturity. To step back and say “I did not know that” is honorable. It’s being humble enough to believe that you can learn something from everyone. Everyone has something to share and we can learn from each other’s experiences. As George would say, “why re-invent the wheel?”

We have all been created equal so let’s give others the chance to shine. It’s amazing what you can learn when you sit back, watch and listen to what others are saying.

Is today your day to teach or learn? Either way you can make a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Giving

Good morning to all….

I ran across this quote today and loved it so I wanted to share this with you….

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity of every difficulty.
Winston Churchill

Isn’t this what we talk about…turning stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Come on….this is great stuff!

Recently George and I have been talking about giving to charities and other organizations. I’m sure you have had similar thoughts and discussions as to what you should do.

Many people are looking for financial help these days. Many of us are asking ourselves…just who do we give too? What will they do with the money?

We cannot give to everyone…to every organization. So we must seek out where our hearts lead us. Where is God directing you to help out? We find this out by “JustAsking.”

In time of need we must give. By giving to others we are actually helping ourselves. Someday, somewhere the “favor” will be returned.

Where are you being led? We are streamlining and “JustAsking” what we should do. We need to make it all count. We need to make a difference not only with our money but with our actions as well.

May I suggest that before you write out that check, “JustAsk” if this is what the Lord would have you sow into?

Such a difference will be made if you are where you are “supposed” to be. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Television

Good morning my friends,

Some of you may think that I’m still out “shopping” with Sarah. HA HA…I could not image what George would say if that were true! She went back to school this morning. Now we count down the days as to when she comes back. Thanks for coming home Sarah!

Speaking of Sarah and spending time with her. Last night we just “relaxed” and watched a little TV together. I haven’t watched television for some time now let alone with Sarah. Oh sometimes I will catch “Sponge Bob” but that’s about it for the most part!

We were chatting, laughing and glancing at the television. Do you know what is on television these days? A prime time show was on that years ago I would have been “hooked” on. Now I looked at it and couldn’t believe my eyes.

So much is accepted today. So much is accepted as the norm on television. What is the norm these days? What are we watching? What are our children watching? My eyes were really opened to what’s out there “entertaining” us.

How many times have we used television as a babysitting tool for our younger children? I’ve done the same thing. Television, a great keeper of company.

How many of us watch television just to “enhance” our lives? Just to give us some spice in an otherwise dull life? What are we exposing ourselves too?

I see mindless acts being performed in front of us all for the sake of “entertainment.” Minds are being shaped by what is on television.

Please do not misunderstand me; there are many shows on television that are fine to watch. I look forward to some of the programming on various channels but we do have to use a filter.

Some programs marked PG…really have to be scrutinized. It has happened at my home….you know the “quick grab the remote, change the channel” statement. It happens and we must protect the eyes and ears of our vulnerable ones. Too much “stuff” is going in and it is not all “wholesome.”

I remember the time when I could sit with my parents and watch television shows which did not make anyone blush or run to change the channel. There was purity then. Sometimes I do miss it. (Ahh yes, the bubbles of Lawrence Welk and the streets of Mayberry.) Television is a great thing. We just have to been cognizant of what comes out of it.

I do believe that the best entertainment is what you make yourself. It’s spending time with family. It’s getting to know them better, laughing with them, talking with them, dreaming with them and sharing your love. That will really make a difference. Nancy
(www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Coming back Home

Good morning to all…..

What a surprise I had last night….

I received a call from my oldest daughter about 9:30ish PM….she asked, “Mom what would make you soooo happy?” I said, “A white Mercedes in my driveway just for me.”

She said, “It’s on its way.” Oh happy day….then I thought no, can’t be….she must be coming home! YIPPEE.

Now I knew she was coming home this weekend but I did not expect her so soon. What a surprise; I get to have her with me for a bit longer. Time for some “girl” stuff!

No sign of the Mercedes yet…I’m still waiting for that phone call. HA HA (No, really!)

Let’s talk about our loved ones today. These are the ones who go away either to school or move away from home for good.

I remember moving out of my home when I was 19. I was kind of young yet but ready to move on. Not because I disliked being at home, I loved being at home. It was just time to move out on my own. I do believe that my relationship with my Mom grew much closer after I moved out.

It seemed like we were always together sharing thoughts, ideas and I was always asking advice. I know that she loved that as much as I did.

Isn’t it funny that sometimes distance makes us closer? We now want to be with each other not because we have to be together but because we want to be together.

Do you have children who are away at school or who have moved out? I pray that you enjoy their company so much when they come back home. Or if you are the one who has moved out; I pray that you enjoy going back home.

Dorothy said, “There is no place like home.” I do believe it. Embrace the ones who have left and ask them back…at least for a visit! The generations will continue to come and when the stories are shared about “home” make your stories warm and memorable.

I’m out the door now – time to enjoy some “girl time” with my oldest. (I’m thinking shopping, breakfast, more shopping!) George, I’m just “kidding!”

Enjoy all that you do today and remember to make a difference in someone’s life. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/To the Rescue

Good morning my friends….

Have you ever had the phone call that says…"Help me?" I would venture a guess and say yes; you have had that phone call.

Let’s talk about “to the rescue” today. We can come to the rescue so many different ways. The bottom line is that “we come to the rescue” when asked.

We can run over to someone, we can call someone, we can provide prayer, food, comfort, shelter, love, money, advice, hugs, smiles and chocolate chip cookies.

There are many ways in which we can “rescue” someone. Isn’t it “funny” how we rely on each other from time to time to help us out?

Sometimes we just need someone with skin on to comfort us. We know that our Lord is always with us, helping us, comforting us and providing for us. To have someone in our lives to embrace us is the sign that our God is with us.

This is called “Love!” Out of love we run to one another. Out of love we give thanks for each other. Out of love for Him we love on each other.

Sometimes you just gotta’ put your differences down and look at the big picture. If you don’t do it; than who will? You may be the only one. You may be the one to make the difference.

I believe that sometimes we view life so casually that we do not put any importance into the fact that we may be the one to help out another. Too many times we say, “oh so and so will get that.” Well, what if “so and so” doesn’t “get that?” “Oops – should’ve done that myself”…we say.

May I suggest that when you hear the voice of someone calling out saying “help me,” run to the rescue….you will be given the resources if you just step out and rely on His help to guide you. I say….”JustAsk”.

We are going to make a difference today because today we run “to the rescue.” Enjoy your fabulous journey. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Ways of the World

Good morning….

My hope is that you are all off to a great start this morning. My household is off and running with smiles on….and I’m OK with that!

A question was posed to me that I want to ask you…..are your ways the ways of the world?

Have you heard the expression…."They dance to the beat of a different drummer?" Is that you? I do believe that that expression suits me just fine.

I do not want to be like the world. I want to be different and I embrace that difference with excitement and joy.

Look around for a moment – is that what you want? I see hunger, anger, hurt, disappointment, anxiousness, fear, illness, cheating…well you get the picture.

Just because this is around us doesn’t mean that we have to participate. It has been a struggle at times – not fitting in – but the rewards of knowing that you are doing it right makes such a big difference.

I no longer care if I fit in or not. Actually I do not want to fit in. I want to help out. I want to be of assistance. I want to be there when you call. I want to serve, not be served.

Remember the movie “The Stepford Wives?” That is not how I see myself. I believe in standing up for what is right, calling forth truth and living it. This is not a casual way to live but an active way to live.

We live right by doing right. As I see it the “world” does not “always” live right. We have gotten off track here…..we are out of balance. It is time to set the scales right.

Whew – don’t you just love pointed questions????

I want you to know that the difference you make today will make all of the difference tomorrow. May you have a wonderful day! Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Death

Good morning everyone….

Today I want to share with you a thought on “things we don’t like to talk about.”

One topic in particular is death. The death of a friend, a friend’s loved one, a family member, an acquaintance, and a neighbor, the person at the store or a distance relative. How do we tackle this one?

I have actually seen people run away from this. They have run away from talking with a person who has lost a loved one. And you can forget about them going to the funeral home to pay their last respects.

I know that this is a personal decision so please do not misunderstand me…I’m not suggesting that you go to the funeral home if you are not comfortable with that….what I am saying is that a phone call would be most comforting and acceptable.

I have even experienced it in my own life. I have lost several family members and some of my “closest” friends have yet to say something to me.

I hear, “oh what could I say,” “I don’t know what to say,”….you get the picture. I say maybe you don’t have to say anything at all – how about a hug which says I’m sorry and what can I do for you?

I remember while at a family funeral I was thinking how nice it would be just to see someone that you care for. I use to say, if “so and so” would just call and say “hi”…that is all that I need. No need for eloquent speeches, long winded messages…just “hi, I’m thinking of you.”

Someone that I have known for a few years has recently passed away and I spoke with her husband this morning. Was the call difficult to make…yes, but it is more difficult for the one that I was calling.

This gentleman said to me this morning, “ Nancy , you know no one prepares us for this part of our lives.” “What in life prepares us for death?”

I’m so glad that I made that call. I reached out in love and care and concern. How about you, do you reach out? Do you hold that emotion in and go forth just to comfort someone else? It is so worthwhile to love from where you are.

I find such comfort and peace in prayer not only during these times but in all times. If you can’t do it, if you can’t reach out “JustAsk” – He will give you the grace to do so. Someone may need to hear from you.
With loving thoughts and a smile in my heart for you…I wish you well. Enjoy the difference that you will make. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Encourager

Good morning….

As I put my thoughts together for today I hear the message…"be an encourager." OK so I ask encourager for what? “Everything.”

Now that is a pretty big order – “encourager for everything.” I will however do my best.

My first question is, what are you going through today? What mountains are you climbing? What rocks are you turning over? What are you dodging?

Who has said that “you can’t do that?” Who is asking “why?” Who has closed the door before you have had a chance to walk through it?

Someone somewhere is closing off dreams and desires for a better life, a better way. Someone somewhere is shutting down the hope for today and tomorrow.

This has to stop. I say that “yes you can go through that door.” You can step out in your dreams and desires to make a life – a better life for you and your family.

So many times people are “beaten” down by the talk and thoughts of others. Who are we to judge someone else? We can encourage and advise (if we are qualified) others who want to move forward. We can, more importantly, set the example of what is to be and what is to come.

You are special just the way you are. You are special in your thoughts and actions. No one does it quite like you. You were designed for a “special ness” all your own.

A side step - I'm hearing "Nobody Does it Better" by Carly Simon (James Bond, The Spy Who Loves Me)..."Nobody does it better - nobody does it quite the way you do...Baby, you're the best....) Ahhh - take me back!

You have something to give and share. You have a dream to fulfill. You must believe in yourself and what has been placed inside of you. “JustAsk” for guidance and a clear path. It is waiting for you.

When you find this “clear path”…the path to truth….then nothing or no-one can stop you. You will be on your way to fulfilling your mission. I encourage you today to examine your thoughts and motives. Why are you doing what you are doing? What is it that you want?

The world is waiting for the one invention that makes all of the difference….could they be waiting for you for fulfill your dream? It’s possible - oh yes, it is possible!

Dare to dream….better yet…dare to fulfill that dream! I encourage you today to make a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/From the Heart

Good morning everyone….

I have a thought for today – Let’s do something for others – not because it would put money in our pocket but because it will impact the life of the person who comes in contact with us.

I do look for these opportunities. To know that someone walks away feeling good about themselves, their load has been lifted and they find hope in a hopeless situation….this is truly a blessing.

Let’s go for the comfort of the heart not the thoughts of the head. Let’s give without expecting something in return.

It’s an easy day today….give unto others out of the goodness of your heart. That is where you treasures lie….

Luke 12:34 (New International Version)
34For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Have a wonderful weekend making a difference Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Victory

Hello and Good morning….

The simple sweetness of a morning smile can make you joyful all day long. Are you feeling that today? If not, I give you a good morning greeting that you shall run with all day long.

I spoke with my “Mom” this morning and she told me that a Blue Jay landed on their deck. Wow - for this time of year. This bird must like the chilly rainy weather or it is a bit lost. Either way it made a lovely vision for this morning.

My son Matthew has set the stage for today. He received a magazine which I have been glancing at. It of course is a sports magazine. If it’s not about sports or eating, he doesn’t look at it. HA HA

Nike has an advertisement which caught my attention. It reads, “VICTORY is paid for in SWEAT, COURAGE and PREPARATION.”

This of course is in reference to sports but I applied it to everyday life. We are all looking for victory, aren’t we? We all want to win. But are all of us willing to put in the necessary elements to make it come to life?

So let’s break this down…."Victory" = winning, "Sweat" = hard work, "Courage" = stepping out, believing, standing tall, and "preparation" = getting ready for the task.

Looks like a full days work to me. I want to win, I want the victory and I will do what it takes to get there. I will do all that is expected of me as long as it does not hurt someone else.

We read stories of special people who "give all they have." They want to win; they want to do more than just survive. What about you? I read these stories, I watch their performances and I say, "If they can do it, so can I."

Sometimes we sit for so long on “easy street” that the thought of getting up and putting forth energy is almost too much to bear. We say "I’ll do it next time."

The time is now. The way must be paved. We need the "VICTORY" now. There may be a price to be paid…just like Nike has said…"sweat, courage and preparation." I say "JustAsk."

No matter what we do, no matter where we go, we should always be prepared. We perform best when we are prepared. Sometimes we know when it is coming and sometimes we don’t. If we are prepared we will be ready no matter what.
Put your time in – it will pay off. Let’s invest in our futures, our dreams, our victories. The winning is in the doing. Oh, what a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Don't lose sight

Good morning to all….

A nip in the air today has me asking- “where are my socks?” I so admire people who have their change of season clothes all ready to go. You know who you are. Your cold wear is ready to come out of the closet clean, fresh smelling and ready to do its job.

As I stumble around looking for socks I keep thinking, “I have to do something about this.”

I’ll just move on with today’s thought and hope that heat will fall on my feet.

There are many people who lose sight of where they are going, what they want and what they believe in. How do I know? I know because I speak with many people who are looking for the answers.

Some seem to let go of their dreams and desires because these desires and dreams have not come into fruition. Hope seems to have diminished.

I believe that we as humans want a quick fix. We want it now. We are use to that. We live in a disposable society.

It even affects our children. They want the answers now without doing the research. (I’ve been guilty of that myself…how about you?)

Since we want it now and many times it doesn’t happen now – we become anxious and lose sight of what we hope for and dream of. But I’m here to say “don’t lose that sight.”

Stay fixed on your dreams and desires. Many times we lose those dreams and desires because we let them go. We no longer believe that they are going to come to pass. We hang our heads, we kick the dirt, we say, “that will never happen, it has taken too long.”

Do we control our time? Do we control what happens to us? Sometimes yes. Just by our giving up, by our not believing in truth, by not having FAITH; we encourage just the opposite of what we hope for.

I say do not take your eyes off of what you desire. Be strong in your faith that what you have asked for God has heard. Be patient and know that your voice will not go unanswered.

The panic button is not one to push when you are waiting. We need to push the FAITH button and leave it up to the Lord. Why worry about these things….He is in control.

So I am hoping a worry-free day for you. Take heed and give it up. Do not run and panic, be still, keep your visions and good things will happen for you. You will see the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Doing it for others

Good morning my friends…..

Oh what a day, running here, running there, sending this out, receiving this in and before you know it you say, “Whew, what is happening?” What am I accomplishing?

Today I want to share with you time given out to others. I mean real meaningful time. Not just a quick “hi, how are ya’… hoping you do not answer because I do not have the time.”

We’ve all been there. We’ve all had it done to us and we have done it to others. I’ve even said, “Well if you don’t want to know then why bother asking?”

Do we inquire of others because it is the socially acceptable thing to do? Do we inquire about others because we really do care? Do we have time to really care?

I’ll answer that with – we better have the time to care.

I’m finding out more and more that I need to put others before myself. When I put others before myself; all kinds of wonderful things happen. When you care for someone, someone cares for you.

Just recently while caring for a friend of mine; I received a gift back which blessed me tremendously. I did not do this for a favor in return; I did this because my heart told me to. I gave not expecting to receive anything back.

I put someone first before my needs. I cared for another person who I saw needed help. When you have needed help, was someone there? Have you been a help when someone needed you? Yes even when they asked for help in moving???? (How many friends do we have then?)

There is need; great need all over the place. Can we reach everyone, no. We can however, reach the person next door, down the street, around the corner and even in our own homes.

I saw a quote by Albert Schweitzer that said, “Life become harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier.”

This is so true. I’m sitting on piles of “stuff” to do…..guess what I am doing. I’m answering the phone, I’m listening, I’m offering and I’m blessing. My “stuff” is waiting and that is OK….my “stuff” will always be there and the person calling may not be.

So may I suggest that we give of our time in joyful abundance? This opportunity may only come by once and you might be that person’s life line.

I’m taking the time to say, “I’m here….what can I do for you.” Enjoy this lovely day and I pray that you are there for someone when they call and someone is there for you when you call. I already feel a difference in the air. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Painful memories

Good morning my friends….

Here we are ready to face another day of giving and making a difference. We started our day very early this morning. I’m not sure why we all woke up so early but I have great expectations for this day. Let’s get started –

It’s been put on my heart to speak about “painful memories.” Oops, it even hurts to say those words. Who wants to go there? Not me. However I sense that someone somewhere is struggling and needs some encouragement.

What do we do with “painful memories?” Some people run and hide. Some people deny they even exist. Some people suffer through their memories. Some shed “painful memories” off like they never happened. Some “JustAsk” for help and they get it.

I’ve seen the fear on people’s faces when faced with a memory of time gone by. These are deep, deep wounds that need to be dealt with. So how do we do this?

We start by seeking out advice from someone who is trained in such an area. We start out by talking with people who have gone through the same experiences which you have gone through.

We start out by letting go of the blame (which includes you) and seeking the truth which can be found in the “JustAsking.”

I see so many people suffering with “painful memories.” They feel trapped in by them. They feel unable to control their thoughts. They don’t let go….maybe they don’t want to. Maybe letting go is too scary. Why? Because this person does not know how else to feel.

My belief is that we are to be whole and wholesome! We are to seek counsel and rise above any “painful memories” which may be holding us down or even breaking us up. These memories are squelching our desires to move forward.

So to those who are hurting and under “painful memories” may I suggest a way of coming out? We start by “JustAsking” for help and direction. There is a different way, there is a right way and there is a perfect way. This way leads to success.
Happiness is just around the corner if you are willing to ask for it. We need not be held down by what has happened. We need to joyfully seek the way out. “JustAsk”…the difference can be yours for the asking. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Pick a weed or two

Good morning everyone….

Time to stop for a moment and share a few thoughts….

I want to talk about an observation which I had. Sometimes I see people just walking through their lives without stopping to pick a weed or two.

What do I mean by this – some people think that their existence is just to be - not to do. They are not pro-active in their day to day business and they feel that life should just be handed to them.

Life is not handed to anyone. Life must be worked to the betterment of all mankind.

Sometimes we want the answers handed to us; sometimes we want events to be made easy so that we can glide through them. Don’t you think that we all have a roll in making our lives truly livable?

Children learn that they have to behave in a certain way to attain certain privileges. As adults we should know by now that we have to act a certain way which is acceptable to all others.

Every now and then we have to pick up something that fell on the floor; even if we did not do it. Think how clean our earth would be if someone just picked up one thing and threw it away or hung it up.

What I’m saying is that everyone has a job to do. We must all carry our own weight. We cannot leave it to the next guy because soon the weight that he has to bear is too much.

I look at our children and I know that they are learning and we must give them grace. I get so bothered when I see an adult being impatient with the little ones; we were once there.

It’s in the doing that counts. It’s in the teaching that makes the difference. Let’s take a moment and pick a weed or two…let’s take off the blinders and see what is around us. It just might need to be tidied up a bit. It doesn’t take long to make a difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Hungry for Life

Good morning everyone….

Don’t you love it when you look at the clock and you realize that time has traveled so fast that you cannot believe your eyes. Your day is moving quickly; you say yes, then you say, oh no, I can’t get everything done…where has the time gone?

At the store, I asked a cashier "How is your day going?" they said, “Great, I only have an hour or so left.” That is how their day is measured. I walked away thinking - is that all that there is? One hour or so left?

I have to ask, how can we enjoy where we are at if we are looking forward to the next hour? Don’t we lose something in looking ahead and not be present in the present? And then again I can see looking ahead when you are at….let’s say the dentist!

Today I want to share with you a story that includes my youngest daughter. Last evening she attended an event at a retirement home. The children gathered and helped the residents play games, distribute gifts and share stories.

This was an excellent way to spread joy and love; to share stories, and become family if just for a bit.

They all laughed together, held hands, smiled, hugged, got their cheeks pinched and the children were called “life.”

How true…some people just bring life to us. It is either by their mere age, their energy, their enthusiasm, their quest for more, their innocence and their ability to make us laugh.

I am blessed to have children around me always. Sometimes it does get tiring but that just reminds me that I must perk up, wake up and enjoy more than I do at times. It shows us how we shouldn’t take ourselves to seriously at times.

Life is love and laughter. Life is sharing and caring. Life is blessing each other with blessings. Life is opening us up to not only receiving but also giving.

These children last night gave of their time and themselves. They truly enjoyed themselves. The residents enjoyed the children. My daughter’s hand was held and kissed, her cheeks were pinched…..she delivered life to someone who may have thought it was all lost.

Are you delivering life to others or taking it away. Are you giving and receiving? Are you allowing the blessings to flow?

If I may suggest… may we not only speak life into each situation but let us deliver life into each situation. Someone is waiting for our smile. Go ahead – brighten someone’s day….you could make the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/The Walking Wounded

Good morning to all…..

Oh happy day! Do you feel “it?” “It” is in the air. The breeze blowing, the Son shining, the comfortable temperature and work has begun. We are so blessed aren’t we? Let’s make it a day worth remembering.

And let’s get started….today I want to talk about the “walking wounded.”

These are the people who have wounds so deep that not many people notice them. The “walking wounded” they have smiles on their faces, laughter in their voice and deep eyes that may show hurt if you are willing to look.

The “walking wounded” they are not just on the battle field. They are all around us. They may be the server at the restaurant, the teller at the bank, the cashier at the grocery, the singer in the band, your co-worker, your dentist, doctor, next door neighbor…maybe you.

While at a restaurant once I witnessed a table of patrons who were visibly not having a good evening. The server got the brunt of their anger. What about the server, what was he going through? Did this table of patrons even consider this? I have to say no. Was this fair, I have to say no.

This weekend while I was out shopping an irate customer was complaining that there was not enough help at the store. The ladies behind the counter were doing their best to help everyone. Unfortunately not everyone noticed that.

So in the midst of being “yelled” at for not moving fast enough, did anyone consider what these ladies might be up against. I must compliment them; they did not show any anger toward this customer. They kept their composure and I admire that. (And I told them so.)

I just want to ask that next time we feel the need to unload on someone, consider the person and take into account what they may be going through. What are they struggling with? Maybe when we show them love and compassion and say, “that it is alright” we might just be giving them love and hope. Just what we are called to do.

It is not about us – it is about Him and what we can do for others. We are so blessed, let’s pass that on. If the world did this – oh my, what a difference we would see. It could start with us. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Obedience/Control

Good morning my friends….

What a great day it is to be able to come together and share our thoughts. Let’s dig right in today with something that I have been thinking about.

I’ve been thinking about the difference between obedience and control. I believe that there is a fine line between obedience and control.

The on-line dictionary states that obedience is… Dutifully complying with the commands, orders, or instructions of one in authority.

The on-line dictionary states that control is…To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct.

Let’s take for instance the military…I understand that there is required obedience in boot camp. You learn how to do everything the military way. One must be obedient to the officer in charge. This may very well be a life or death teaching and one must grab hold of the instructions.

Some say that the officers in charge are controlling. I’ve never been through it but I can only imagine that you must be obedient to their orders whether it comes off as controlling or not.

Let’s look at our everyday world. Are our children obedient to us? Are we obedient to our employers? Are we obedient to our teachers and mentors?

Do you ever feel controlled by someone who has a higher ranking than you? Do you think I must be obedient because it is for my own good?

When we feel controlled we dig in our heels and say, I’m too old for this stuff. Sometimes we feel as if we know better or maybe we are just stubborn.

If we are not use to someone “telling us what to do” we bristle a bit, don’t we? If we are under someone’s teaching and guidance then we must be obedient to them. We must respect authority.

I’m sure that many people are into controlling others but I also know that out of love many people guide and direct others in a way that must be obeyed. Some people are put in our path to “bring us up.”

We should recognize who these people are and be respectful and obedient to their teachings. As long as you know in your heart that this teaching is good; then you should allow the process to proceed.

If it feels like control and you cannot get out easily; then maybe you should re-think where you are at and who you are with.

Maybe we should stop fighting so much and listen to what is being said. Be obedient and learn from the ones who have gone before us. They paved the way. They made the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Authentic

Good morning my friends….

What is better than fitting into your jeans from last year? I can’t think of much more than that! YIPPEE….oh wait a minute – these are stretch! Never mind.

Today I want to talk about being authentic. We even see advertisements about being authentic.

The on-line definition of authentic is - 1. Conforming to fact and therefore worthy of trust, reliance, or belief.
2. Having a claimed and verifiable origin or authorship; not counterfeit or copied.

We are talking about the “real deal” here. No substitutes, no phony replicas…the “real deal.”

Not putting on a pretense. It is being who we are; who we were created to be.

How many times have we changed ourselves just to suit others? I know that I have done this before. How about you? Of course we have….we want to be accepted, acknowledged and approved of. At times we are or were afraid of non-acceptance if we were different.

Then you reach a point in time when you are confident enough in yourself to be who you really are. I’m not sure that everyone gets here though.

When we are authentic in our beings then I believe that we exude trust. We are someone who is real, someone who stands tall and can be depended on. Why? Because there isn’t a lot of guess work with someone who is authentic.

I so enjoy being around people who are real, don’t you? You can then be yourself with them; let your hair down and show them truth.

We have all been created beautifully so why not be that authentic beauty and shine with what God has given us?

Don’t be afraid to be real. It is really quite refreshing and natural. Authentic – the difference between butter and margarine and we all know which one is healthier. Go for the authentic stuff – it is really better for you. You will see the difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/I'm repeating

Good morning to all….

I never want it said that “she repeats herself.” I really try not to do that. But….sometimes a message comes to me that just won’t let go. That is where I am at today.

We’ve heard it before, I’ve spoken on it before and here it comes again…."Watch your words."

You say, “ Nancy that is so old.” Yes, I do know that but it keeps coming back and I am prompted to speak of it once again.

We hear it in small groups, we hear this message being spoken from the pulpit, and we read it in various publications…the Bible even states it…

Proverbs 18:21… Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. (NIV)

I have met with people who say out of the blue…."I’ve heard it is what and how we say something that matters." "WOW" – I say to myself.

I’ve been contemplating whether or not I should share this one again. This is what I decided. Someone somewhere needs to hear this. If not for the first time, if not for the second or if not only for confirmation – this is really important.

What do you speak over yourself? What do you speak over others? What do you speak over your job, your home, your friends, your health, your love and your faith?

Before you dismiss me as “yeah, yeah, yeah”…take one more look at your speech. Are you speaking life into your situations or are you speaking death?

It is so easy to fall into a rut and speak only of demise but turn that around and speak only of hope and promises.

Not only will your life turn around because you believe it to be so but you will feel so much better.

Let’s start today – proclaim promises over yourself, speak good news over yourself and believe that you shall receive according to your words. When your words are right; you will be right. “JustAsk”

Make a difference today by starting out with “YES!” You are great and you will make it! Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Patterns

Good morning my friends….

What a glorious day. I’ve heard from my eldest and she says that where she is at it is cloudy and cold. Then I look outside my window and see blue skies, sunshine and a cool breeze blowing. This scene is pretty consistent outside my doors. You know - it is how you perceive it to be.

Today I want to share with you my thoughts on “patterns.” More specifically the question, who are you patterned after?

Who are you most like? Who do you most look like? Who do you most act like? We all talk about these things in our generational lines.

Unfortunately, we sometimes pattern our health after someone who has gone before us. Because of our genetics we pattern our well being after the other members in our family.

I’ve had to deal with these same issues. There has been a certain disease which has shown up a time or two in my family line. I just refuse to accept the “fact” that I am pre-destined to receive this sickness.

I have looked at the facts, I have read up on preventative measures and most importantly I believe in health and healing.

I do not want to live a life of gloom and doom just because I may be patterned after someone who has gone before me.

We have a choice to make. Maybe we do not have a choice in life as to who we look like but we do have a choice on how we take care of ourselves and what we believe to be true about ourselves.

I’ve heard people say, “Oh that runs in our family so I’m just going to accept my fate.” What is that about? Accepting fate? Is there such a thing????

Isn’t life about being pro-active? Isn’t life about living to the best of your God given abilities? Not settling for second best. Don’t we always need to put our best foot forward? Once again I’m taken back to desire, belief and achieve. We are doing something about it.

Let’s not accept what “fate” has to offer. As a matter of fact, let’s throw “fate” out. It is “faith” not “fate.” It is in the believing that there is more….it is about “JustAsk”.

So who are you patterned after? What does that pattern say to you? Do you like it? Do you want to change it? Who is patterned after you??? This might be the better question.

Mirror, mirror on the wall – enjoy your day one and all. Be different. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Temptations

Good morning to all…..

OK – OK – OK –I misspelled a little word on Friday. Oh my gosh, I caught it after I shared with you. Make that “lose” control not “loose” control. Sorry!

A few days ago George and I were talking about “temptation.” What is temptation exactly?

The on-line dictionary defines temptation as, something that seduces or has the quality to seduce…. the desire to have or do something that you know you should avoid; "He felt the temptation and his will power weakened." (I see chocolate cake here.)

There you go - explained very nicely. We know what temptation is but how do we over come it? Some say that their temptations are so hard to over come. Some say that their temptations are too big. Some say “yeah, but you don’t know how hard it is.”

We are tempted every moment in every day. We must be strong to avoid temptation. So am I saying that we need to walk around with blinders on? Am I saying that we should live in a box? No, not at all.

What I am saying is that we must shed the weakness and no longer give excuses for out actions.

I find that some people are very strong in their weaknesses. Now isn’t that odd – strong in weakness? They hold onto their weaknesses. Some describe themselves by their weaknesses.

I’ve heard some say that they cannot control the temptations. They could not help themselves. I understand this; temptation is a strong hold and a hold that some have difficulty breaking.

This reminds me of talking with a child and they may express a concern to me. I will attempt to explain a solution but they come back with “yeah, but.” The “yeah, but” is an excuse. Do they really want the solution to the concern or do they just want to roll around in it more?

When a person wants to break away from a temptation they might want to change their actions or even the people they spend time with.

How badly do they want change in their lives? We hear people talk about addictions, how they want to break free…but are they really trying to change? Are they really trying to escape that temptation?

George made a great statement about this – if you want to be an electrician, you would not study under a plumber.

This means, if you want to break free you need to position yourself with people who are not battling what you are battling.

Let’s say alcohol is your temptation – do not be with people who drink. The same holds true for all temptations. Position yourself outside the draw. Help yourself to succeed.

The more excuses we give about how we cannot overcome temptations - the further we will fall.

It is not easy – not easy at all….the first step is to get rid of the excuses of “yeah but” and move forward to staying clear of that temptation. JustAsk for help.

Such a difference can be made by a little change that begins with you. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Control

Hello and Good morning….

Have you ever had one of those weeks when you run into your office, slide across the desk and fall into your chair???? Well that is where I am. Sometimes I see a sitcom built around me! Glory to the Lord I am back….so let’s get started.

My question is – When you loose control, who is in control?

Let’s picture the times when we have lost control over a situation, a person or persons or even ourselves. Who or what is in control? Not a pretty picture most of the time.

When a person is on the outside looking in they see total chaos. Who’s on first? (Too funny, remember that comic routine?) Anyway it is not always funny when we do not know who’s on first.

My girlfriends and I have discussed how we like knowing who is in charge. It takes the guess work out of it. No one is squabbling over who does what and who does not. Someone is in charge, someone is in control and things run a whole lot smoother.

In times of panic, where do you stand on control? Do you run with the rest of the people who are in a quandary or do you stand strong and know that you just know?

I would like to believe that I stand on the side of control….that I know that I just know. But…..I get tested continually and I know many of you do also.

The testing is a good thing. The testing keeps us on our toes. We have to be able to listen and discern good from bad. We have to take the lead from time to time. Why, because many eyes are upon us looking for direction.

So once again I ask, when you loose control, who is in control? It is best not to loose control. Stay strong, hold true to your convictions and do not be moved easily. Be a pillar of faith and be in the know.

There can even be control in chaos if you would just take charge. A difference is made when someone stands up. Enjoy your weekend. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Excitement

Welcome to the beginning of your day….

Recently I have been entertained by watching people. I so enjoy watching the expression on their faces when something awesome, exciting, fun and even surprising happens to them.

The latest is a video with a little girl who threw away her Daddy’s first foul baseball catch at a Phillies game. This is priceless. Her little innocence is more precious than gold. I was so proud of her Dad for embracing her into his arms. His faced showed that he loved her so much. Their bond is unmistakable love. (I think that I also saw a look of “you got to be kidding me!”) These are priceless moments and it showed.

Every now and then we talk about negative issues that create some depression in people. We talk about how to be an over comer in these situations. The best way to over come the negative is to embrace the positive. This is not a new thing….we all know about it.

So to overcome the negative in others I will look for their excitement. What makes them happy? What makes them jump for joy? What makes them get out of bed early and run? This is passion, this is joy and this excitement is life changing.

I have found that we people are not the only ones who get excited about an event, a happening, a change or even the fact of seeing other people.

As I have mentioned before, each day as I write to you our pet Cockatiel Sammy is on my lap. She gets so excited when she sees me heading for the office. She whistles, chirps, runs back and forth on her perch and I just have to get her.

As we walk down the hall she can barely hold onto my finger. She is ready to go. She is excited. How such a little thing can make a big difference in her morning.

We see this happen all across the board will all kinds of pets….they are excited when they see us. They are open with their expressions and it doesn’t bother them if another pet sees them running sideways just to say hello.

What about us? Are you living in excitement? Some people say that we make our own excitement. Maybe so….I know that my excitement lives inside of me. It can’t help but come out. We bubble over with excitement sometimes.

The next time "you people watch" notice the facial expressions on the happy/excited ones and the facial expression on the sad/depressed ones. What a huge difference. Excitement can be found on the outside – that is called happiness….Excitement can be found on the inside – that is called joy. It is real, it lasts and it shows constantly.

Are you happy or are you joyful? Where is your excitement coming from? One of these will make a lasting difference. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Skin Deep

Good morning to all…..

“Skin deep” that is what I want to talk about today. “Skin deep” what does that mean? We’ve all used this expression in many ways and probably have meant a few things.

When I hear “skin deep” I think of splinters…(ouch)….I think of the expression, “beauty is only skin deep” or I think of transparency.

I also think of Shrek. Shrek said he was like an onion, several layers to him. Well, skin has several layers. Shrek was making an analogy of himself using an onion. He was saying that he is deep because the skin of an onion runs deep.

“Skin deep” it keeps our organs in place. It is a protective covering over our fragile system. Skin is deep because when one layer disappears; another one takes its place.

OK now what about our feelings? Some would say our feelings are only “skin deep.” Now what does that mean? Are we saying our skin is deep or shallow?

Are we saying that the hurt only goes so far or that the hurt goes all the way to the bone? I guess that is for the person who is hurting to determine.

I believe that “skin deep” is so much more than flesh. I believe that this expression refers to deep down hurt. The kind of hurt that hurts your stomach.

It is a piercing wound. Sometimes the smaller wounds like a paper cut or a needle prick on the end of your finger hurts worse that a larger cut. It does not take much to prick our flesh and hurt us. Unless of course you have “thick” skin….Oh boy – a whole new situation.

Are we fragile beings? In many respects – yes. We have been so expertly designed that we can withstand a lot of outside pressure but sometimes our skin get a little bruised and we struggle with that.

How far does the hurt go? How far will YOU let it go? We can look to the flesh and feel the pain or we can look to Jesus and watch the pain melt away.

We can understand a lot about a person when you find out if they are “thick” or “thin” skinned. What bothers them, what can they brush off, what makes them cry or what makes them laugh?

Are you transparent or opaque? Does your heart lie right under the surface or is your heart buried? How do you allow yourself to be seen?

“Skin deep” what lies beneath? How much are you willing to share? We are all made the same. It is time to stop hiding. It is time to start creating the difference that you were made to make. Enjoy your day and if you get “pricked” just kiss it, make it better and keep on going. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Convictions

Good morning to all….

What a wonderful way to start my day – I get to connect on a personal level with you before I start running around. Is this a great job or what?????

Today the word conviction has been placed upon my heart so I said, “OK…let’s go with that.”

First off I have a question for you…..What do you say to someone when they come against something that convicts you? Do you back down, do you defend your convictions or do you question yourself and your right standing?

When we believe in what we are doing…in what has convicted us – we normally stand firm.

People will come against us and say “don’t even try, I’ve tried for years and nothing changes.”

When this is spoken out it reminds me of people saying – "You can’t do that"..."That will never work"..."You are wasting your time." And my favorite response is "why." I answer with "why not."

I’m an eternal optimist. True. Sometimes I think that ignorance is bliss. We just run around focused knowing that “it” will be OK.

This reminds me of when I had my first child….if I’ve mentioned this before-just give me a moment. My first right….I can do this….this is no big deal….HA HA…ignorance is bliss.

I said, “No I do not want any medication.” “I can do this.” Yes it is true, I did it. But looking back on it…maybe I should have taken just a little medication. I don’t think that “bliss” is exactly what I was feeling at the time.

Recently I have had people come up to me and try to squelch my enthusiasm for something that is near and dear to me. I just won’t let them. Maybe it didn’t work out for them but that doesn’t mean that it won’t work out for me.

Keep believing and persevering. Nothing ever came from someone who quit. When someone says to you – “you can’t…say “I can.”

Here’s to dreams coming true…new heights being reached and being true to your convictions. I’m going to make a difference. You can too. Enjoy this great day. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Forgive and Forget

Good morning my friends….

I greet you with openness and love this morning with a message that is on my heart.

Today I want to talk about the phrase, “forgive and forget.” How many of us do that? Oh we can forgive….but how many can forget? Can we have forgiveness if we do not forget? Do we truly forgive? These are questions which we must ask ourselves then examine ourselves for the true answers.

I’m sure most of us have experienced forgiving others in small things….but how about the big things? Where do you stand in your ability to forgive in the big things?

I’ll share a bit of myself with you at this time…In my past there is a failed marriage and I just could not forgive nor forget. I hung onto the anger through un-forgiveness….it felt good….it felt like the right thing to do.

I believed, at the time, that if I hung onto that un-forgiveness that un-forgetting…I would punish my ex more. Was I wrong? You bet I was wrong. I was only punishing myself more. I was putting that un-forgiveness and un-forgetfulness on myself…not on him. I’m not sure he even knew about it or cared. So who was I hurting?

When I discovered the truth about forgiving someone the walls came down and I became putty in His hands. OK so now I forgave….but could I forget? Yes, I did hold onto that for some time after the forgiving.

Matthew 6:14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, you’re heavenly Father will also forgive you.

God knows our frail ways. He allowed me some time to work through this and that is exactly what I did. I discovered that I could truly forget. Now I’m positive that without forgetting – you truly CANNOT forgive.

So many people walk around caring grudges and past hurts. They have stumbling blocks hanging out of their pockets…they proudly display their anger and hurt. These people cannot wait for an avenue in which to express their anger.

How many times have you been with someone who gets so angry and you just know that there is a deep seed of some kind. OK – so now if that deep seed was not there – could the anger grow? No.

We get rid of deep seeds by forgiving and forgetting. Is it easy? No. I’ve also discovered that easy is not always the best way. Sometimes “easy” just presents shortcuts.

We are not to pretend that a situation did not happen; we are to examine it - then JustAsk for help in forgiving and forgetting. The chain that has you so bound to anger will disappear and you will experience such joy and peace.

Forgiveness and Forgetting is a big deal but it can be done because I have made it through as I’m sure many of you have. I’m also sure that many of you who haven’t gone through it yet – can.

So make the difference in your life by forgiving and forgetting. You will enjoy the chains being broken. Nancy (www.justaskbook.com)

The Good Idea/Nurturing

Good morning everyone….

I hope that your day has started out on a great note. There is so much to be thankful for isn’t there? If you break it down to the simplest of things….your pillows, your blanket, your shower, tooth brush, breakfast and a little coffee. WOW – we have so much! Thank you Lord.

Today I want to share with you a thought or two on “nurturing.” Webster defines nurturing as, “to train, to bring up, to foster, something that nourishes...like food.”

I’m going to focus in on the “to bring up” part of the definition today. What do you think of when you hear the word, “nurture?” I think of cuddling, loving, caressing, talking softly and giving direction…I think of love. “Nurturing” is softness to me.

While talking with some friends this weekend we mentioned how friends and even some family members are lost because they are not nurtured in their walk.

It takes work….but I consider this a labor of love. Work is sometimes dreaded, work is sometimes hard and work can wear you out. But to “nurture” that is rewarding. You are feeding into someone’s being. You are adding to their development. You are encouraging their walk.

When we develop a friendship we do not (I pray) just leave that person untouched for some time and expect for that relationship to grow, do we? I think that some people just expect for others to develop without their intervening….without some guidance…without some "nurturing."

The song…"It takes two baby - just me and you, etc." just came into my mind… OK moving on….I have found that some people take on the attitude that others do not need to be "nurtured." They think that others can make it on their own. Quite possibly so. Some of us do just fine on our own and others do not? Do you know who you are and do you know for sure who others are?

How long does it take to ask another if they need any questions answered? What about asking if they need someone to hold their hand on their journey? We need to support and back up a person until they get on level ground. Just because we could stand up immediately doesn’t mean that everyone else can.

You know some babies are walking by 6-8 months or sooner….mine walked after 1 year. We are all different. (A side note – my husband will tell you the reason that our children did not walk early is because I NEVER put them down to walk!)

That is probably another topic for another day…anyway let’s “nurture” each other. We all need to go in truth and light. We all need someone else to show us the way from time to time. When we get lost it is a wonderful thought knowing that someone will be there to "nurture" us through the rough times.

May I suggest that you be that “nurturing” person? Give until it makes you feel good! When you do this you will feel so different. Enjoy this beautiful day. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Great gatherings

Good morning to all….

As I sit and share with you this morning I hear the rain coming down ever so softly. If you know me at all you know that this soft falling rain has a tendency to put me to sleep. I see visions of my bed, plumped pillows and down comforter….umm…too bad it is not 10PM.

OK…time to stop dreaming….Have you ever heard of a “great gathering?” Have you ever hosted a “great gathering?” “Great gathering”…Reminds me of Charlie Brown.

I’m speaking of a lot of people getting together for something. A “great gathering” could be a church, a sporting event, a concert, a rally or dinner at someone’s house.

Have you ever hosted a “great gathering?” Some people love to entertain. They love to have others over and make them feel comfortable. They just love to serve.

I believe that it is so important to make others feel comfortable. I would like to believe that my home is one such place. I want my home to be a place of comfort, a place where others feel at home, a place where we can serve each other out of love…not obligation.

I’m sure that many people entertain “great gatherings” and do so with a chip on their shoulder. Let’s face it, preparing for a “great gathering” is a big job. But think of the rewards.

When we serve others we show them love and respect. We show them that we care and we are glad that they are with us. We tend to them and we take care of their very needs.

A few “Good Ideas” ago I mentioned how I was the neighborhood Mom and how I loved that. Whether we are serving small children or adults the rewards are the same. We are showing God’s love for others. What a wonderful opportunity to take care of others.

Recently it has been impressed upon me to always serve our best to others. You know my Mama always said, “You can’t take it with you.” So use it. What are we saving the good stuff for? Dust??? George and I mentioned that we enjoy serving on our “good” porcelain…it gives us an excuse to wash them. HA HA

Many of us have hutches, cabinets, curio cabinets at home…what is in yours? Do you use the items in those cabinets/hutches? Probably not…just like me….well it is time to get them out and enjoy them.

Serving others our best….get ready for those “great gatherings”….people will so enjoy the extra effort you put forth and you will enjoy the difference that it makes. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Winds of Change

Good morning my friends….

As I was walking home this morning from taking my daughter over to school; I looked up into the sky and saw the beauty that was put out ahead of me. The clouds were parting at just the right place to let the sun peek through. The gentle winds started to blow and life was starting to come “alive.” What a beautiful site to see – I saw peace. Thank you Lord.

Speaking of “winds”….that is what I want to share with you today. “Winds of change”… I’ve heard that expression since I was little. How about you? I’ve wondered what those words meant and recently I’ve thought about them again.

We are in a season where the winds are picking up and fall is being ushered in. These winds are bringing in cooler temperatures and some rain.

We have the winds of winter and they bring in cold and snow. We have the winds of spring and they bring in warmth and rain. Then we have the winds of summer and they bring in heat and rain. (A lot of rain here.)

We can watch the weatherman/weather woman and they tell us of winds which cause change. There are winds which bring in storms…winds which bring in soft breezes and lazy days. They seem to have this down to a science.

What about the winds which bring about a sudden change; an unexplained change? A change which no one saw coming? This is a wind which seems to blow out from nowhere. These winds catch our attention. They may even make you shudder a little.

Have you ever experienced this type of “wind?” I have. These types of winds will make you take notice…it gets your attention.

Changes are happening all around us. Changes are being ushered in all of the time. “Winds of change”….they are bringing something new in around us.

May I suggest that you take notice of how the winds blow? Are they around you, over you or through you? I believe that there are messages in the wind if we have eyes to see and ears to hear.

Enjoy your “windy” day and listen carefully for a message…it could be blowing around you just to make a difference in your day. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)

The Good Idea/Observation - Negative

Good afternoon to all….

My, my, where has this morning gone to? Let me think….the Orthodontist, the bank, the post office, the store, the store again and then the store. That’s where this morning has gone to. There has been too much moving around once again. I believe that I’m now settled.

Today I want to share with you an observation which my husband George and I have been “observing.”

Why is it that some people find it so easy to accept the negative instead of the positive? Take for instance sickness; some of us may jump immediately to bad news instead of believing in the healing.

We may think and stew about the job we just lost instead of the great opportunity that awaits us. When it rains some of us see gloomy skies instead of the cleansing of the earth, watering the grass and the filling up of our oceans.

Why do we as a people have to embrace the negative? I’ve heard people say, “Oh no I can’t think of hope and promises…that just doesn’t happen to me.”

Henry Ford said, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing you are right.”

When people jump to the negative it leaves them just there – in the negative.

It is “funny” how some people thrive on the negative information and situations. I believe that it is only when the negative is present that they feel as if they are alive. WOW – what they are missing! Where does this come from? What lies have been told to make a person dig this deep into the negative.

I’m sure you all know people who look for the negative just so they can say, “told you so.” “I told you that was going to happen.” Some people just sit and wait for “the other shoe to drop.”

Now if we take a different approach and expect the good to happen; expect the positive to manifest then it will. It is ALL how you look at it.

Whatever you look for – you will find. Do we want to be miserable? Do we want joy? Do we want love? Do we want to live in happiness and security? If we answer yes to these questions than we have to believe that the positive happens to us.

May I suggest that the next time you start to feel down, sick, tired, confused, overwhelmed and even a little negative…perk up, have faith, believe and look to the positive? If you are under the weather – well at least you get to spend some time in bed reading a good book.

Remember that saying…."When life gives you lemons; make lemonade?" It’s not so bad – it’s how you look at it that determines the outcome. It is the faith that you have.

Be positive this day – take the negative out of your life and your vocabulary. You will be amazed at the difference in your life. Nancy (www.justaskbooks.com)